In Response to Steve Santagati's article this week on dearsugar.com
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Below you'll see my list of the top three things I've learned about women in relationships, and I want you to give me yours. Tell me the three things that guys just don't understand about women.
I go first:
Making a woman feel beautiful and sexy will go a long way in making the relationship more harmonious.
When I argue with a woman, I can usually see her side of the story — even if I disagree — but she will never be able to see mine.
Women are just as naughty as men. Men don't care if everyone knows they're a pig, but women have to feel safe to let their naughty side shine. The better I've become at making a woman feel safe being her mischievous self, the more I see of the real her.
Despite the disgusting title of his website and book (bad boys finish first, seriously? I know it's attention grabbing but it's also immediately off-putting) I normally agree with the advice Mr Santagati has to dispense. It is usually constructive, honest common sense from a guy who has obviously been around the block more than a few times. I can't say that I have the same amount of experience but I think that I can impart these small truths about women that guys just don't seem to understand.
- An honest, level headed woman can usually see all sides to the story, even if they disagree with your point of view, whether they will let you know this or not depends on how much your point of view offends her & how stubborn you both are.
- Every woman loves flattery but what every woman loves more than sweet-nothings whispered tenderly into her ear is the actions that back up such words. You say you are going to fan her with a palm leaf while feeding her grapes- Instead of telling her this try actually arranging a romantic rendez-vous that involves you pampering her before you try to get into her pants. A gift for gab will get you far but sweet gestures and thoughtful conduct will get you a lot farther and count for so much more.
-We want honesty. Consider our feelings and desires (emotional as well as carnal) and how your conduct might affect us before you put your plans into action. Women are far more reasonable when they are shown some consideration.
- All women are over-analytical. Guys are pretty simple usually they just say what they mean and aren't thinking very far (if at all) ahead, not so for us girls.